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Funky Cold Medina June 29, 2010

What a week so far.  Friday I finally talked to my parents after the big blow out.  Mom apologized and Dad didn’t even have the decency to get on the phone.   We had uncomfortable small talk for an hour or so and that was it.  Things are definitely strained between us.   I am sad that my Dad hasn’t even spoken to me yet.  He did leave me a message referring to himself as mean so I guess that is his way of apologizing. Whatever, I am over it. Is there something called a pregnancy funk? I am definitely in one today.  I don’t know if it is from our lackluster weekend or the doctor’s appointment but I am really pretty surly today.   To begin with we had some friends over this weekend for dinner and told them about the baby.  They barely congratulated us.  They have been trying to get pregnant so I knew this would be difficult.  I felt bad because they seemed to be pretty upset by the news.  I know how that feels and I totally understand where they are coming from.  It is a hard situation as I don’t want to make people feel bad but boy it does kind of suck the life out of sharing the news.  Sunday I spent the majority of the day in a fetal position on my bathroom floor with what was a horrible day of morning sickness.   I don’t even know how to describe it other than like the worst hangover of my life with none of the fun!  I could barely move or eat.  Not enjoyable and a total waste of the day.

We met with the doctor yesterday for our eight week appointment and it was pretty uneventful for the most part.  Most of the information that she gave us was pretty much the same as all of my research.  I did get a no on the tanning lotion-as our doctor didn’t feel like there was enough information to ok it.  Maybe my confirmed pal rider status is what is putting me in this funk!  I did learn a few good things that I think will really help.   Water water everywhere!  She told us that a lack of water can exacerbate the symptoms or morning sickness. I think there is something to this.   I am supposed to have at least a liter a day is and I don’t think I had anywhere near that much on Sunday.  Apparently deli meat sandwiches are an option if they have been double toasted so my lunch options have just gone up exponentially!  Diet coke is so 1987-  and a no no for me as there is no significant research on this.  Aspartame is not my friend!  Since I am not a big pop drinker this won’t be a huge issue but for now my occasional is now off limits.  I am glad we talked about healthy weight gain too- a reminder to get myself in gear hear.  I had fallen of the wagon this weekend and put a little junk in my trunk.   This week I am back to my healthy ways with a trip to the Farmers market.  I am beyond excited that they had Kale- which is a I make a delicious kale chipa!  I also picked up some healthy cucumbers, tomatoes, lettuce, broccoli and zucchini the bebe is going to have such a great week! I think I am feeling better already!

Another subject that we discussed was whether or not we wanted to do any genetic testing.   Not good times.  Since I am an old hag- 37 my at risk odds have apparently increased.   Hubby and I did not really talk about this at all before the appointment which made for an awkward end to the appointment.  I would recommend to anyone trying to get pregnant they should talk about this beforehand to get a sense of where you both are at.  The stakes change when you are actually talking about a life that is growing inside of you.  We do not see eye to eye on this and had a pretty difficult conversation yesterday that I think is the real reason behind this funk.   I am not going to get into who feels what but there are some pretty strong opinions either way.  I would be lying if I said I wasn’t disappointed but as with anything I truly don’t think people know how they will respond to a situation of this magnitude until they are in the moment.  I believe in our marriage and know when it gets down to it we will make it through anything and come out the other side better for it.  Yet another tiny bump in the road.  I am going to do some more research on this before coming up with a strategy but my oh my this is stressful!  Welcome to parenthood!


One Response to “Funky Cold Medina”

  1. Pregnantmeme Says:

    Sorry to hear that you are in a funk. I totally think there is something called a pregnancy funk (probably really just all the hormones though, but pregnancy funk sound so much better). Sorry your appointment was lack luster as well. Unfortunately a lot of them will be. After a while they just get routine.

    I have no suggestions on the genetic testing, I think it is a personal decision. Good luck on your research and I hope you and your hubby can come to some sort of an agreement on the issue.

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