What to Expect When You are Not Expecting

My adventure of getting pregnant over 35 starting with clomid

Belly Buster September 7, 2010

Labor Day is over and back to the grind. How was your weekend? Any fun BBQs or Labor? My weekend was not without its drama- something new. Saturday I noticed we had a message on our home phone. We both use our cells and office phones mainly so we don’t get a lot of calls at home. Low and behold- it was from my Dr’s office. WTF?? I was freaking out. I don’t have another appt for another two weeks so it definitely wasn’t a reminder. It was a message from the lab that said we have a “non-emergency” message for you so please call us back. Uhhh…I hadn’t been to the Dr in two weeks- what could they possibly be calling about? I don’t have any billing issues with them. I am not going to lie if I was a neurotic person I would have lost it over a long weekend. They left the message at 5 to 5 on Friday. Who does that? My mom and mother in law went ballistic. Surprisingly I took it in stride and hubby was a miffed. I figured that they lost something or who knows what and if it was something to be at all concerned with my actual doctor would have been the one calling and not saying non-emergency. But still- isn’t everything your doctor has to say urgent when you are preggers? Doesn’t all lab work mean something that you don’t want to wait three days to find out! I called first thing this morning and found out that it was to tell me our genetic screening came back normal. Hello- I was told if they didn’t call me in three days it was normal so this was not news. Thank god nothing was wrong! I might add I felt pretty good about not getting all worked up over this though- kudos to me I really am a grown up- maybe I actually am ready for this!

As if that wasn’t excitement enough- the weekend ended with a bang- Mark your calendars, it is official I can no longer button my pants and thus this will be the last day of 2010 that I wear my regular pants. Am I now officially preggo? I still think I look more fat than pregnant but people keep telling me I have a glow. I feel like the glow is more attributed to my new skin care products than anything but who knows-I’ll take the compliment! Thank you very much! Ugghh on the pants though. To get by today, I did the rubber band trick but don’t think this is really working for me- kind of un comfy. Did die laughing when I told hubby I needed one this morning and he brought me a large one thinking I would put the whole band around my waste to hold up the pants. Still laughing out loud when I think of that. Of course I immediately did my online research. My research concludes….I have no interest in investing in any maternity pants. I rarely wear them in the fall and winter and since I own my own business and am the only woman that works here, I am thinking that I might need to institute a “pregnancy” dress code that includes jeans. So maybe I buy a pair or two of cute maternity jeans and work them in with leggings dresses blazers etc. I did break down today and ordered a couple of maternity tank tops- mine are all so short so I need them longer to layer. I bought a ton of stuff on sale at bloomies this weekend- all non-maternity that I think are going to work AND be super cute. I will keep you posted upon arrival. Can I just share that I got these really cute faux leather leggings- OMG to die! I am excited to see how things fit – I suspect that whatever I get now will only last me a couple of months until I am huge and then I will reassess and purchase again. Good times. I also am wondering about this Bella Band- any recommendations? Has anyone tried one? Do they work? Since it was a long weekend and I had a day of misery (allergies) I had a chance to catch up on my reading. Am I the only person astounded by what they read pregnancy books? There is so much information contrary to what I have experienced that I am incredulous. Yes I know I have obsessed about genetic testing but I really need to set the record straight. All of the books I have say that if you are over 35 it is recommended to get an amnio. WHAT???? This is just not true. Girls if you are over 35 and thinking about genetic testing please read this. There are steps in the process and you can rule out genetic issues without and invasive amnio or CVS sampling but you have to start early in your pregnancy. We were offered genetic testing which involved a blood test and an ultrasound. Then four weeks later we took another blood test. We were told that if both came back normal than you were 97% likely to have a healthy baby. Why on earth would I do an amnio or CVS now? A simple set of blood tests and a fun ultrasound were all I needed. If we had different results I don’t know what we would do next amnio or not but my point is you can get a lot of information without any risk to the baby. Ok off my soap box on this…now on to some of the funnier things I read:

Cheeseburger Crotch? What the hell is that? I have had nothing even remotely close to this. Is this normal or do these ladies need to learn a thing or two about personal hygiene?

Constipation- This also hasn’t been an issue for me- I eat fruits and veggies daily so maybe this helps.

Don’t use Coconut Oil- There are so many health benefits associated with coconuts that I can’t even believe I read this too crazy to comment on.

You will have more energy in your second trimester??? For me- not so much. All I want to do is rest and sleep. Even though my lovely bladder usually keeps me form sleeping in. I feel tired all of the time. Does anyone know how many hours per night are recommended? Can’t seem to find THAT info anywhere.

A few things I have experienced that none of the books have mentioned:

The Caboose gets stuck – Am I alone or have you noticed that when doing a number two that the train just does not want to fully leave the station? I mean seriously if I don’t want to sit on the pot for thirty minutes I might need to start using baby wipes.

Speaking of pots….I spent the weekend with my Netti Pot- Do believe the hype- what I like to call my nose douche is working wonders on clearing my pregnancy sinuses! I have used it in the morning and am already noticing a difference. Love it!

Are these all crazy but true?

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Playing the odds- this isn’t Vegas baby! August 2, 2010

When will it ever end?   I have not been a very good blogger these past few weeks but I must say that I am getting my ass kicked by a peach!  As you might have guessed the baby is the size of a peach now and where as I had a string of good days yesterday was another one spent on the bathroom floor.  I thought this was supposed to be ending soon.  I guess not.  I know you are all dying to know what I have been up to since I have been so delinquent in my writing the past few weeks.  My business has been extremely busy and I have been having out of town guests the last few weeks.  My sister in law was in town for a conference so we got to have dinner dates throughout the week.  Beyond enjoyable!  She is so good to talk to and down to earth and we went to some of my favorite restaurants in the city.  Also did some shopping which was fun for her….me not so much.  Still haven’t figured out dressing for pregnancy yet but definitely did not enjoy trying on clothes that I couldn’t get over my gi-normous boobs.  I think it is def time for a new bra.  It was great to talk to her because she has two amazing little girls and has been through this.   She is also realistic about what pregnancy is really like and it was great to ask her questions about what she went through.  The day she left we had some friends over to round out a delightful weekend.  They were so cute and excited and it was great to talk to them as well.  She is a PA and had some interesting perspective regarding c-section over natural birth.   I will definitely be exploring this as we go along so more to come on what she told me are the benies of c!  I was feeling ok most of the week but it hit me like a ton of bricks after everyone left and then I was down for the count Sunday night.

We had some very exciting doctor’s appointments last week.   We had our 12 week check up at the doctor.   It’s funny but I search and search online and can never find information on what to expect during our doctor’s visits.   So for those of you wondering I will give it to you strait up….what happens during the 12 week appointment?   Not much.  The usual….pee in a cup and then meet with the doctor to review any tests/questions, kind of not so interesting. We went over most of our questions in the last appointment so nothing too exciting there.  The doctor did use the Doppler machine to play the baby’s heartbeat for us but I am a visual person and really didn’t get as much out of that as I do in an ultrasound.  It doesn’t really sound like a normal heartbeat like you would expect- sounds more like wings flapping.   What we did discuss during the appointment was genetic testing.   I need to step on my soap box here for a minute…  I can’t believe how the odds change for Down syndrome once you hit 35.  So many people kept telling us oh- it’s no big deal to have kids when you are older and you aren’t really at any more risk.  This is not true- the odds change significantly every year after you turn thirty five.   Had I known this – there are definitely things I would have done differently- primarily with getting a new doctor much sooner after my miscarriage and not taking his advice on waiting it out.   I didn’t have the time!  It upsets me dearly how poorly he managed our case and his lackadaisical approach had us waiting almost a year to get pregnant again.  It doesn’t sound like a big deal but it is if you look at the numbers it is.  At age 36  the chances are roughly 1-329 and at age 37 they are 1-259 when you get to 40 it is roughly 1-150 so time is of the essence here.  Something to think about.

So let’s talk about genetic screening.   If you are over 35 you are automatically offered it.   We decided to take it because we both felt that it would be great to know that everything was ok.  Let me just tell you it is a downer and awesome all at the same time.  The downer part is all the facts and discussion surrounding what could go wrong- does anyone really enjoy that?  No.  Also we have a friend that was given a false positive and went through a lot only to deliver a healthy baby.   Knowing this is possible is kind of nerve wracking.  Now for the awesome part- you get to have an ultrasound at 12 weeks and it is amazing!   We could see our baby’s face, arms, and legs etc.   The baby was moving around and we could watch it all.  It was pretty unbelievable.   We also could see the heartbeat and in the still pictures you can actually see the nose eyes and almost all the facial features.  Granted they are a little alien like at this point but pretty remarkable none the less.  It looks like the baby is holding a microphone to sing- so cute!  I can’t even imagine what it is going to be like at 20 weeks but feel so lucky that we got to have a sneak preview.

So for the nitty gritty on what they do in genetic testing.  The first step is an ultrasound where they measure the baby’s spinal fluid.  Don’t freak out if the ultrasound tech won’t tell you anything during – ours wouldn’t – but take the time to enjoy the rest of the ultrasound it is magnificent.   Then you give some blood-  shocker it’s not like you aren’t a human pin cushion already- then they call you in to the little room to meet with a counselor.  The good news is you get the spinal results right away; ours were great which was a huge relief because the spinal portion counts for 70% of your screening results.  Phew- everything isn’t roses yet but we are definitely skewing in the right direction.  Then they basically just review with you how to read the test results that you will receive in the mail and tell you that if there is a concern they will call you.  If we have a concern our call will come today.  Given our 70% status I am sure we will be a- ok!

So I am starting my second trimester this week and allegedly will start feeling better.  As if I can believe that.   I had a great week last week and thought I was finally seeing the light.  Only to get my ass kicked yesterday after a fun weekend with my parents.  I still feel like crap today and can’t believe how bad I was yesterday.  It is a new kind of bad where I feel like I am going to pass out all the time and am nauseous.   My doctor gave me the Zofram and since I have been so anti drugs I am so hesitant to take it but if this continues I won’t have a choice.   It is bad and I think yesterday was one of the worse days I have had. None of my old tricks were helping, water, food – nothing.  Little Baby why you got to be so mean to me?  I am praying the pregnancy gods- please please make it go away!  Bring it on big belly- just take away the sickness already!